I'm A Real Goth Now!

So with the help of Nephilim Incorruptus the look of this blog has changed. And you may notice that it says I am a "real Goth" but what exactly is a real Goth? Nephilim suggested that the "real" aspect be due to the fact that I am down to earth.

Goth culture began to spread in the 1980's as an offshoot of the post-punk scene. But if you go further back the term "Gothic Literature" was used to describe works that combined elements of romance and horror. I have said before that being Goth does not mean you have to love Sisters of Mercy or Bauhaus. *gasp*

Some may disagree but being Goth is NOT all about the music you listen to. Being Goth is a lifestyle. It is more than clove cigarettes and fishnets. It is Romance and Horror. It is finding beauty in the darkest places. It is embracing that darkness instead of turning away from it. Being Goth is about not following the modern standards of beauty.

A "Real Goth" does not condemn those just because they do not like Dead Can Dance. A "Real Goth" may not follow many offshoots and sub-genres within Goth but they accept them. I may ruffle some feathers...but frankly..I could care less.

So, what is the definition of a "Real Goth" to you?

Source: Tumblr

Creatures of the Night Assemble!

Can "Creatures of the Night" be like the Goth version of Avengers? I want this to be a thing. (Insert Robert Smith in battle gear here.)


I decided to do a little post about Goth Problems...because the struggles are real.

1. Getting candle wax on ALL THE THINGS.

Wax on the dresser, wax on the sink, wax on my books...WAX.

2. Getting black lipstick on ALL THE THINGS.

It smears like a vengeance and ends up on every surface. Like your face (nowhere near your lips.) and anything you have eaten or thought of eaten.

3. Being a blonde and having a hatred filled relationship with black dye. 

*Dyes Hair* *Roots pop up mysteriously* WHY?!

4. Blacks never match.

Ah the beauty of many hues of black. First washed black, never washed black, and borderline grey.

5.  Not knowing how to do "no makeup-makeup"

What? I can do lovely smokey eyes...that does not count? Screw it I will just go out in no makeup.

6. Not enough Hallowen themed things.

One does not simply have one Halloween themed item. I have 49309 jack o lantern themed things in my house...but I need more!!!!

7. Hello Halloween...goodbye money.

See number six.

8. When BDSM or Gothic architecture is mentioned, all eyes are on you.

*sinks into chair*

9. The felling of supiriority when you have to wear all black at a job. 

*victory dance* I don't have to buy new things!!!


And last but not least.....

10. The fact that your closet is one big black hole. 

Literally. It all merges together into one big blob. I need a flashlight to find a shirt...*sigh*

New Necklace! I NEED a glow in the dark skeleton necklace.

Current Loves: The shoe and acessory edition!

I decided to group my current loves into categories like just shoes or just tops. I also have plans to post more makeup tutorials since I have a new phone that has a good camera. Hello technology!

Also the picture uploader on Blogger is being strange so for now I will just post links. Much apologies.

Shoes!


1. UNIF Trench High Boot.

These are pricey but so drool worthy.

2. Demonia Stomp 300 boots

These remind me of the movie The Craft due to their 90's chunkiness.

3. Madden Girl Duff wedges

I need some wedges for summer!



Acessories!

1. Skull choker

Reminds me of something Lenore the little dead girl would wear.

2. Hellbound Heart Hellraiser Necklace

Hellraiser! Pinhead! *hyperventilates*

3. Faraway Look Shades

I need these circle sun glasses in my life. NEED.

Super Duper Serious Goth!

On a constant basis I see goths who take themselves way too seriously. They argue that you are not Goth unless you wear all black yet preach about "being yourself". They say the cute little Monster High Dolls are not Goth and are mainstream. (I do not care who knows those dolls are so cute! What is so mainstream about a vampire who swoons at the sight of blood?)  I may not be the gothiest goth in the graveyard by some standards but I love who I am. I used to think in my baby bat days that I was supposed to be this deep and dark creature of the night. I am far from deep and dark. I love to read about serial killers yet pictures of cute bats sends me into screams of joy.

If I always took myself so seriously I would just be no fun at all. I do long to make real life gothy friends but if I strictly based my friends on the clothes they wear....I would have few friends indeed. I do have moments of depression where I laze in pajamas and cry. But we all need this moment once in a while. I prefer to bounce around in combat boots and smile.

If you skulk around all miserable...then you are just perpetuating the stereotype that all goths are miserable. Some stereotypes are fun to embrace such as hanging out in cemeteries and Halloween being the equivalent of Goth Christmas. I look back at pictures from my childhood and think about how my mother should never cut hair. I look back and remember how I would try to be "sooooo goth". This caused me to go into a rut and I moved away from the attire but kept the same interests. I realized I do not have to be in a dress code all the time. The clothing does not define me....I define me! I do not wear all black because I have to...I wear all black because I want to.


Also what would you like to see more of on this blog? I am trying to change this blog and improve it.

Pink Eyeshadow and Big Changes!

It has been a minute since I wrote a post. I have been feeling that having a blog is useless since I have less than five followers and such. But I am changing up the look of my blog and will be posting more "controversial" things rather than strictly goth related posts. Controversial as in..talked about more within the goth community. I have a new banner on the way all thanks to the wonderful Nephilim Incorruptus.

Changes are coming!

For Valentines Day my love had to work and we decided to get each other gifts we wanted instead of chocolate or roses. Roses are not my favorite flower and I can get chocolate anytime! This year he got me a shirt I have been lusting after.

Source:Blackcraftcult.com

 A shirt from Black Craft Cult! It actually arrived today so I got to wear it out and about! He works today so I just got myself dressed up, ate sushi, and thrift shopped. He also is giving me a bookshelf that he built when he was younger. It needs a little paint but it will make a good project for both of us to work on. Tonight I am making his favorite meal and bringing him his lunch. We do not need a fancy dinner out to know we love each other! And today I actually experimented with pink eye shadow. It is rare I wear it and today seemed suitable. 

The plans for tonight include a well deserved relaxing bath and white chocolate macadamia cookies. Also the blog itself has changed and more changes will be coming. So do you like the new look so far? Do you celebrate Valentines Day?